Fairly medium to slim dating
And, the “skinny girl” narrative works because it’s conventional; it’s something a “non-creepy” dude might be into.
Getting too turned on by an “average” girl kind of implies that you’re a desperate weirdo. When I wasn’t dating anyone for 2 years, looked like a total lezzie, and men never hit on me, I felt great about myself.
In fact, it is so ubiquitous, I think you should just go ahead and assume most men feel like they are creepy for getting turned on, or probably felt that way at some point in their lives.
I also think this is why men don’t write about their sex lives.
Because, female fetishization of beauty was not as painful to me as male fetishization.